Mayuri Kadambande, director of WakeUpUrbanNaari and author of Art of Overcoming Rejection, explains why mental health and mindfulness are necessary

Mayuri Kadambande is director of the WakeUpUrbanNaari Foundation and author of Art of Overcoming Rejection. Her mission is to empower 1 lakh women to become great leaders using life-changing tools and solutions. She is a transformational leadership and mindset mentor.

With more than 10 years of experience in operational excellence.
She is also the author of the bestseller “The Art of Overcoming Rejection” for which she has been awarded many awards like Bankim Chandra Chatterjee Kala saman Phd convocation award as Literary Personality, Sahityakosh Awardee for 2022 and many others.

Mayuri has successfully trained over 1000 people helping them achieve their leadership goals. She believes that every woman has the right to live an independent and respectful life by developing the right mindset, one can overcome the challenges in her life, be it color discrimination, financial situation, racism, relationships with family, workplace politics, sexual harassment, abuse and many more. .
In over 10 years of professional experience in different leadership roles, she has encountered challenges that women face while balancing their personal and professional lives, which causes them to fall into stress, anger, anxiety, frustration, depression, sometimes even affecting their long-term health. .
Mayuri reaches out to women who aspire to make a difference in their lives through her books, webinars, coaching sessions.

WakeUpUrbanNaari’s slogan is
“To live a respectful life is the fundamental right of every woman”

The Art of Overcoming Rejection by Mayuri Kadambande

Art of Overcoming Rejection, based on true incidents from Nisha’s life, uncovers some incidents that seem common on the outside but have a lasting impact on the human spirit. This explains why one should not just deal with rejection for the time being, but overcome it to improve self-esteem and self-confidence.
It’s not just a self-help book, but also a simple practical guide to life and a torchbearer for people who face rejection in life. It’s especially for people who ask themselves the question – “Why me?”
I envision a world where people are free from stress, anxiety and depression and live happy and healthy lives, physically, mentally and spiritually. This book will help people overcome complex feelings of rejection and transform their lives. Read, understand and implement the solution given in this book to overcome all feelings associated with rejection. There are exercises at the end of the chapters that will allow you to reflect on and identify the root causes of rejection in your life, making it easier to master the art of overcoming rejection.


Why mental health and mindfulness wellness is necessary by Mayuri Kadambande

You would be surprised to know that the first seed of rejection is actually sown in you.
During conversations.
In a few Indian households, children are often told that they are not able to do certain things in certain scenarios.
Again, the school is no different, with admissions forms being rejected left and right. Young children are not aware of their emotions and it doesn’t make much difference. But, as they get older, they start to feel bad about things as small as a teacher or parents and loved ones who don’t like them.
The majority of times children feel depressed or rejected is when no one has paid attention to their feelings. The demon of rejection kicks in and begins to grow in the minds of children. As children get older, they grow up fearing a poor self-image and begin to feel that no one likes them. Also, it takes less or no time for them to assume that they are not good enough and this becomes the reality of the life they begin to live.
This is where children start to feel bad about their self-image, which leads to low self-confidence.
As children grow and reach adolescence, many physical and mental changes occur in their bodies.
And if a child has already suffered many rejections during childhood or growing up, this void would either make him too adamant and bold or make him shy and incompetent due to a loss of self-confidence and image. self.
They are fearful and avoid mixing with people. Most people who lack self-confidence operate from a state of fear and anxiety.
People carry unnecessary emotional baggage on their shoulders. Every little rejection accumulates in the mind and stays there if not removed at the right time.
There is a lot of social pressure on parents to make their children successful in life. And the typical comparative mood of people and relatives adds to the misery of the child. We usually see parents pressure their children to get good grades to such an extent that they think it’s easier to kill themselves than to get grades. They feel it’s the end of the world.
Continuous comparison and competitiveness were taught from the start.
It’s good to be competitive. But to what degree?
And how to compete?
The mistake people usually make is comparing their kids and teaching them to compete. But, they forget to tell them that it’s okay to fail, that it’s okay if they get fewer points, that it’s okay to learn from their mistakes and that as parents, they will always love them. When this part is missed, children stop arguing to avoid being confronted with their parents’ comparative mindset.
I am not saying that parents do not take care of their children. I know you love your children very much.
I’m just giving you a whim; if you do, please stop it.
Because you are not doing your children any good. Let your children be themselves and if you are a person who believes in statistics, the information below is for you.
Statistics from the NCRB report on the subject of suicides in India: every hour, a student commits suicide in India. With around 28 suicides reported every day, according to data compiled by the National Crime Records Bureau, it shows that suicide rates rose from 9,905 in 2017 to 9,478 in 2016. In 2018, 10,159 college students died by suicide. The trend of continued year-on-year growth has been seen in people who commit suicide and this data is for college students only. If you’re a parent, ask yourself: Does he get good grades?
exams more important than your child’s life? It is obvious !
And I see your concern, your child’s life is more important to you.
Often people get stuck in their limited belief system. This belief system is like a tumor in the mind. It continues to trouble you and you don’t realize it until it becomes fatal. Now why I say “until it becomes fatal” is because the seed of rejection was sown a long time ago and we keep piling up rejection after rejection. So the little seed that was sown in the mind continues to grow over time.
According to the National Science Foundation, a November 27, 2017 study showed that the average person has about 12,000 to 60,000 thoughts per day. Of these, 80% are negative and 95% are repetitive thoughts. Now, here, when we talk about 80% negative thoughts and 95% repetitive thoughts; so how are we going to think creatively?
We are emotional beings and that makes us human beings. With each rejection, there is an answer in itself. Emotions that arise when rejection can be pain, loneliness, jealousy, guilt, shame, anxiety, embarrassment, sadness, anger, and fear.
And when the human mind passes through these emotions, they react strongly in the following way:
• Going into defensive mode and getting into unnecessary arguments.
Switch to submissive mode – return to their shell of loneliness
A person works hard to avoid rejection and therefore reacts when they perceive that others have rejected them.
It is an intense subject. Let me explain it briefly and simply.
Most emotions can be triggered by personal and impersonal situations. People may feel scared, frightened, angry, sad, or offended because of how others have behaved towards them or because of their actions. A sudden rejection is a shock, especially when it comes from unexpected people. And they just react in one of the ways mentioned above.
Just being aware of our words and behavior would help us live a peaceful life.
Taking care of our mental health and taking care of the mental health of those around us is our responsibility.

Lola R. McClure